Just diving in right here… i absolutely hate the stereotype society has given women to “sit pretty” and “look like a lady.” For some reason, there’s this preference that a female has to be proper, prim, and pretty. Now, there’s been progress breaking the stereotype, but for the most part, I'm just generalizing here.
This is my gorgeous friend Ellena. She’s brilliant in every version of the word, gorgeous from the inside exuding out, and a special person in my life. As we ventured out to take pictures, she sat down where I asked her to, saying, “how do you want me?” and stroked a modest, legs crossed, proper pose. Granted, she was slightly exaggerating her pose, but I hit a sensitive button for me. I sat on the pavement right across from her and put my camera down and realized this: women are just as strong as men, women work equally as hard as a man would, and woman are just as courageous and smart. In fact, there are some woman that have absolutely crushed the stereotype and have become extraordinarily successful.
So I told her this: “No. I don’t want you to sit proper and perfect. Sit however you feel like. I want to photograph you so that others might be empowered by the way you carry yourself.”
Because it does not matter how you sit or talk or breathe or eat. You have just as much right to be who you are as the guy sitting next to you does.
This isn’t meant to be a feminist rant but something I hope inspires other women to feel like you can choose how you sit and carry yourself. Either way, it’s perfectly okay, but don’t not carry yourself a certain way just because you’re scared: “I'm a girl, i can’t do that.”
You CAN do that. <3